Yeah, having sex on your bed is hella comfortable, but a change of scenery can make things even steamier. That doesn’t mean you should break the bank trying to book a night at a swanky hotel. Instead, just take it to your car. What sounds more kinky than hot sex breath all over your car windows?
Mmm, that’s car sex. Whether the image makes you nostalgic for your high school boyfriend or horny AF from thinking about Jack and Rose in that epic Titanic scene, I think everyone can agree that getting freaky in the backseat can be extremely hot.
For one, you can do it just about anywhere. Literally. It’s a car, which means you can drive to wherever your sexcapades take you. Maybe that’s an empty beach as the sun sets, the woods, or a parking lot after dark. You decide how romantic or risqué you want to get. Just don’t go anywhere that’s entirely exposed in public. (I trust you to use your own judgment here!)
Two, having tight quarters and so much to grab on to—doors, windows, seats (anything but the gear shift, really)—means you absolutely can’t just lie there like a fish (not that you’d do that, anyway). Car sex requires getting beyond close to your partner and being a very active participant. There are no passengers in a sexmobile.
And to make the session even hotter (because why not?), Jess O’Reilly, PhD, Astroglide’s resident sexologist, suggests taking advantage of all the “tools” you have at your disposal. “[Try] seatbelts for light bondage, seat adjustments for different angles, and radio to set the mood.”
Last but not least, because you can’t exactly have an hours-long lovemaking sesh—since, ya know, other people are likely to come around at some point, and your legs will (I repeat, WILL) start cramping—you feel a natural sense of urgency. Those need-you-now vibes, especially if you’re in a long-term relationship, make for seriously steamy sex and better bonding afterward.
Now that you’re ready to jump your partner during your next Trader Joe’s trek, here’s how to have great sex in a car, from expert tips to the best positions:
Park in an isolated but safe area.
This should go without saying, but you definitely want to park your car somewhere where you’re (a) unlikely to violate public-sex laws, (b) out of plain sight from passersby, and (c) not totally remote, in case of an emergency.
Some good spots: an almost-empty parking lot, an abandoned nighttime tailgate lot when everyone has headed to the game or concert, or near a campsite.
Wear comfortable, easily removable clothing.
Think: a skirt or dress instead of jeans and a tank. “You want an outfit that you can easily lift so you can remove undergarments quickly,” says Janet Brito, PhD, a licensed clinical psychologist and certified sex therapist in Honolulu, Hawaii. You also want to be able to throw said outfit back on in a jiffy, in case of sudden visitors.
Think about how hard it is to throw on tight jeans at home. Can you imagine doing that in a car? Yep, not happening.
Chat about your expectations.
As with any sexual experience, communicating with your partner beforehand is key. You definitely want to run by your idea to hop on them in the car before doing so, notes Brito, and discuss what you want that experience to look like.
If you don’t and they’re not quite as, um, adventurous as you, you may feel a bit rejected when they ask you to buckle back up.
Add ambient lighting.
Assuming you’re not pulling over for a car romp in broad daylight (if you are, you animal!), bring a flashlight—or use the built-in light on your phone—to illuminate your tight space a bit, suggests Brito. Not only does this add “mood lighting,” you’ll also help prevent the annoying elbow whack on the car door.
If you prefer the illicit feeling of being in total darkness, go for it. Just be mindful of vulnerable body parts as you move around.
And don’t forget the radio. Throw on a station you both will like, whether it’s some smooth jazz, or some rave music to really get your rhythm going.
Back to Jack and Rose for a sec. While the sweatiness of their car-sex moment will go on (and ONNNN) as one of the hottest sex scenes in movie history, IRL, you can have insanely intense intercourse without getting that gross.
Turn on the AC (but keep the emergency brake on, ALWAYS), or stick to cooler evenings so you can drive around with the windows down for a few before parking.
Take advantage of a sunroof.
On that whole “stay cool” note: If you have a sunroof, don’t forget to use it! Not only does this allow ample air flow, says Babeland cofounder Claire Cavanah, an open roof also creates a bit more vertical space for seated sex positions (more on those in a sec). Just do everyone a favor and keep your voices/groans to a neighborly level.
Experiment in different spots.
You’ve probably tried reclining the driver or passenger seat, then climbing onto your partner. So hop into the backseat together, where you’ll have ~a bit~ more space to get frisky. Either way, don’t fight the close quarters—embrace them as a way to feel physically and emotionally closer to your person.
Oh, and if they have a giant trunk or tailgate? (Love me a good, F-150.) By all means, Have. At. It.
Go big or go home.
And by that, I mean try driving to poundtown in a larger car. It’ll give you extra space to get ~creative~ without sacrificing the intimacy of an automobile. O’Reilly suggests trying what she calls the ‘Reverse Ride.’ “One partner sits in the front passenger seat with the seat rolled all the way back. The other sits on their lap facing away from them,” she explains.
Or you can go for for the ‘Car Doggie.’ Just open the trunk and get on all fours holding on to the backseats. Flatten them down if that’s an option. Then, have your partner approach from behind.
Now, for more best car-sex positions—try these
Get it? This take on classic Cowgirl is your go-to move for car sex. Why? It’s easy to hop on and hop off your partner in a pinch, you get tons of clitoral stimulation thanks to the angle of his penis, and you can push your body up against his to take him as deep as you like.
Do It: With your partner sitting in the driver or passenger seat, climb on top and straddle them. Option to recline as far back as you both desire.
2. Reverse Cargirl
Like Cargirl, only with your back and butt facing your partner so they get allll the views (and you get a nice one of the parking lot). JK: This position is really great for hitting your G-spot—and controlling the depth and pace of your partner’s thrusts, since you can lean on the glove compartment for leverage.
Do It: Have your partner sit on the driver or passenger seat (or backseat, if you want), and straddle them facing away. Brace the window or glove compartment for stability as you grind.
3. Backseat Doggy
Straight-up missionary can be tough to do in the car, since chances are, neither of you will be able to extend your legs fully. Doggy-style, on the other hand, is perfect: You get deep penetration and G-spot stimulation, he gets to take you from behind while bending his torso over yours, and you both get easy access to your clitoris. Win-win.
Do It: Climb into the backseat, then get on all fours. Have your partner kneel behind you and enter, draping his upper body over yours.
If you’re tired, go ahead and let your partner take the driver seat…for the sexing, too. In this position, you get to lie down (with bent legs…because, space) while he sits on top of you.
Do It: Get in the backseat and lie on your back with bent knees while your partner straddles you. He then inserts his penis through the tight opening created by your semi-closed legs, increasing the intensity of penetration.
5. The Seashell
One way to take up less space in the car? Fold your body in half (or the closest thing to it). The Seashell is a clutch car-sex position for this very reason—and the fact that you can have him “ride high,” rubbing his pubic bone against your clit, or “ride low,” directly stimulating your G-spot with the head of his penis.
Do It: In the backseat, lie on your back with your legs raised all the way up and your ankles as close to your shoulders/head as possible. He enters you from a missionary position.
6. The Om
Okay, so, disclaimer: The Om is a tantric sex move, which involves more slow rocking than hard pounding. But it’s kinda romantic, if that’s your thing. (If it is, Jack and Rose would be proud.)
Do It: Have your partner sit cross-legged (yoga-/pretzel-style) on the car seat, then sit in their lap facing them. Wrap your legs around them and hug each other for support.
7. Reverse Scoop
This lying-down position is great for backseats, since your bodies are basically intertwined with each other and your legs are bent, unlike in missionary. The bonus of lying down? No chance of banging your head on the car ceiling. (That’s the worst.)
Do It: Climb into the backseat, then lie down and turn onto your sides to face each other. Scooch toward each other until he can enter you, and use your arms and various parts of the car, like the (locked!) door handle, to support you.
Want to crank up the kink on your own car-sex scene? The Spider is a must if you want to make things a little more hardcore. The position creates intense penetration while letting you and your partner get a full look at each other’s bodies—something that most car-sex positions can’t do.
Do It: Both of you sit on the backseat with legs toward each other, arms back to support yourselves. Now move together and onto his penis. Your hips will be between his spread legs, your knees bent, and feet outside of his hips and flat on the seat. Rock back and forth.
It’s the only time you’ll be happy to see a spider in the car.
9. Rear Seat
Okay, it’s definitely time that you tried the ‘rear seat’ position if you haven’t given it a go quite yet. It’s one of the most accessible positions out there no matter what kind of genitals you have. You and your partner can take turns leaning against the door while the other gets on their knees.
Do It: Need a play by play? Gotcha. “One of you can lean your head and shoulders against the door, in a semi-propped up position while the other can be on their knees and be in a position to finger you, use a sex toy, or engage in penetrative sex,” Brito explains.
While on her knees, your partner can also play with your nipples, kiss you, and give you oral sex. “Since you have seats and doors to lean on or push against, this position is versatile, as it allows you to spread your legs or adjust to an angle you prefer.”
If you’re enjoying the backseat, stay there! Another way to tackle this area of the car is by trying out new ways to give oral, or as Brito calls it, the ‘bullseye.’ (Get it? The clitoris is the bullseye, hah.) TL;DR: This position takes face-sitting to a whole new level, so your clit is gonna be obsessed.
Do It: “Gently sit on your partner’s face in an angle where your clitoris rests on their lips,” Brito says. “You can hold on to the seat for support.” By using the seat for balance, you can grind all over your partner’s mouth and move your hips every which way.