While some continue to puzzle over whether or not squirting, also known as female ejaculation, is pee (spoiler: it’s not) there are a million better and sexier ways you could be using your time.
For starters, how about diving into sex educator and Soft Paris co-founder Anne-Charlotte Desruelle’s simple guide on making women and other people with vulvas squirt.
Like all good things, the answer is deliciously simple:
How to squirt
- Find your G-spot
- Stimulate your G-spot
- Listen to your body
That’s how, but first:
The Thee Golden Rules For Squirting
- Take your time
- Find your G-spot and stimulate it
- Be patient – and check your expectations at the door!
It’s time to get comfortable! First up, get rid of all the tension in your body, ensure that you’re not going to be disturbed and leave yourself plenty of time.
For extra peace of mind, you may also want to “waterproof” the area by putting down several towels beneath you.
2. Locate your G-spot!
Sit on the floor and bend your knees with a mirror between your legs. If you need, open your labia.
The G-spot can be found within the vagina, around 0.5 to 2 inches from the entrance, on the vaginal wall towards the stomach.
Place a finger into your vagina and curl it upwards towards your belly button.
There should be a patch of flesh like the surface of a golf ball, or the skin of an orange.
How to squirt
3. Stimulate your G-spot
Softly and slowly stimulate the G-spot. Keep in mind that this isn’t a race or performance and be sure to go at your own pace.
Lube, lube, lube! We can’t undersell the importance of lots of lubricant. In addition to making the experience loadsss better, it will also lessen the risk of soreness, pain or injury.
Opt for a water-based lube (it’s true that silicone lubricant can be longer-lasting, but the downside is that they can’t be used with all condoms and silicone toys).
Stimulate your G-spot with your fingers or use a G-spot vibrator that has the right angle to hit your G-spot. A G-spot vibrator can make the zone more easily reachable, which means it’s more easily stimulated.
As your G-spot gets stimulated and you start feeling more aroused, the erectile tissue will fill with blood and the G-spot and the labia will get larger. Keep in mind that parts of the G-spot may feel sore, so take care to stimulate the sore parts gently.
4. Listen to your body
Be conscious of the different sensations in your body and alter the pressure accordingly. Keep in mind that it should feel pleasant.
For many people with vulvas, ejaculation will only take place after the vulva and G-spot have filled with blood become larger.
Because the ejaculate originates from the urethra, feeling like you need to pee is a move in the right direction…
Some people only squirt when the G-spot is being stimulated (for example, via penetration), for others, it’s the opposite and takes place when the vagina is not being penetrated.
How to squirt during sex
Squirting isn’t just for solo play – here’s how to male someone squirt during partnered sex.
Sex positions for squirting
If you’re with a man, penis-having partner, or using a strap-on, try cowgirl or doggy style sex positions.
If you’re having sex with a man, penis-having partner, or using a strap-on, try out the cowgirl or doggy style sex positions.
Cowgirl is a sex position which allows you to be in complete control over both body and feeling, making it easier for you to feel your way to your G-spot.
Doggy style sex positions give your partner the chance to apply pressure on the frontal vagina lining, increasing the opportunities for G-spot stimulation.
And, lastly, remember that squirting may happen on your first attempt or it may take a few years… The most import thing is to be at ease with your body and ditch any expectations!